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                             Communication Pitfalls in Relationships & How to Fix Them
No relationship is perfect. We all know this. We're not perfect and therefore our relationships will never be perfect either (Without God) But success in relationships romantic and otherwise have a lot to do with proper communication. In fact, most relationship problems are caused by poor communication.

                                  
Here are a few communication issues in romantic relationships and how to work through them:


The Problem: Misunderstanding words and actions. It's really easy to misinterpret your partner's words, emails, gestures, and actions to mean something other than what he or she intended. We're all human it happens.


The Solution: Don't immediately jump to conclusions. Instead of assuming you know what the other is thinking, ask for clarification. Continue asking for clarification until you understand what your partner is really saying.


The Problem: You don't talk enough. In a long-term relationship, most of us eventually hit a point where we feel we don't communicate much any more. We don't hang out. We have our routines (wake up, shower, dress, go to work, come home), and most don't involve the other person as much as they should.


The Solution: There's a simple fix for not communicating enough: recognizing that you're no longer communicating like you once did and talking more. Create some alone time to carve out for just the two of you.


The Problem: You're avoiding certain topics with your partner. Perhaps this is the reason that you're not talking to one another anymore. Maybe you're upset with your partner. Either way, you don't feel like discussing it, so instead, you clam up and say nothing. Your walls go up as a way of avoiding the issue.


The Solution: You're not benefiting your relationship in any way by avoiding problems. Instead of retreating and putting up big walls, take a long hard look at the issues and face them together. This way, you can work together to come up with a solution.


The Problem: You need to be right. We've all had those times when we couldn't back down from an argument. We're right, we know it, and we have to prove it. So we pick a fight (or continue to beat a dead horse) until we feel we've won.


The Solution: Being right isn't as important as having open lines of communication. Being willing to see things from another point of view may not change how you feel, but it does give you the incredible opportunity to learn.


Pals---What other advice do you have about communication issues in relationships?

                                                       

                                    Friday & Forever

 

My name is Dayo. I’m a typical Nigerian guy and I cherish my Fridays a lot; I get to hang out with the sickest guys every Friday night and secondly, It’s another escape from my nagging and boring wife. I get confused sometimes on whether she’s my mother or my wife. Don’t get it twisted; I love her pieces. It just gets complicated; like I wish we never got married…marriage has turned her into something that doesn’t amuse me. I wish she was still the adventurous, charming, high spirited lady I dated for five years.

A lot of people say its unethical for married guys to be found in a club, but I wish everyone won’t be too quick to judge and understand that people look for fun to run away from their problems; they just want to breathe, like me.

I forgot to say that I work in Guarantee Trust Bank along Lekki, I love my job and my job loves me, maybe its because I’m the senior banking officer. Lol. This particular morning, a lady breezed into my office. My heart raced faster because I had not sighted anything this beautiful in a long while. She wasn’t the typical slender Barbie, in fact, she was a bit chubby but her smile, cuteness and…I was tripped.

“Hi Good morning! Your ATM has swallowed my card!” She laughed, unlike a typical customer that would ram you.

I just tried to form Boss laughter…

“Good morning, You know what? I’d personally make sure they get it out for you, but not today. Can you wait till Monday?” I smiled

“GTB shaaa! OK, can I just drop my number so you could call me up or just text when its ready so I don’t come twice? Please? My name is Nancy” She blinked her eyes in a funny way.

“Sure” I smiled

We exchanged numbers. What a lucky Friday!

So it was 10:00pm and I headed to the club…as usual my friends were chilling for me. My wife had called a couple of times, I just ignored it. She knows I’m never home Friday nights.

“Look at you!” I heard someone say. I raised my head and it was the ATM lady-Nancy.

“Wow, look at you too!” I was surprised to see her but I was happy I didn’t have to wait till Monday to see her again.

“Happy Friday!” She screamed because of the noise, “Wanna dance?”

I didn’t even have the chance to answer, she already pulled me to dance floor. I really suck at dancing but she helped me; she was a great dancer! I had fun! At some point we decided to go to a private area and we talked, ranging from work, business to personal life. I tried to hide my ring as much as possible, I certainly didn’t want this to end now.

“You are a really wonderful lady. You are so interesting…any guy would want to be with you all day” I said.

“I wasn’t always like this but I have learned the hard way that life is just too short to be sad” she sang

Then her phone rang…

“Hey baby! Yeah I’m at the private lounge, I’d like you to meet someone…alright boo” she talked excitedly as usual.

I was in shock until this tall handsome man walks up to her and kisses her.

“You were late. Meet Dayo; I met him this morning, he’s helping with your ATM I told you got swallowed and Dayo this is my B to the O-O,” she laughed “Meet my husband Kolade, we only come here to dance every fortnight Friday; away from work, stress and kids.”

“Wow, a pleasure” I managed to shake him

Then she stood now excitedly holding her husband’s arms.

“Why don’t we invite Dayo for Mimi’s 16th birthday tomorrow?” Her husband said

They have kids too? How long have they been married and they look like a couple just dating!

“Silly me, please come for my second daughter’s 16th tomorrow. It would be an honor” She brought out an I.V from her purse.

I began to feel so ashamed of myself…this was another guy like me, getting it right with one woman.

I collected the I.V and promised to be there.

“See you tomorrow! Have you had something to eat Kolade?” she talked and dragged her husband along.

They left and I kept staring at the thin air like I had seen a ghost. They come just to dance together every fortnight Fridays? Why didn’t I think of that! Temi loves to dance…she also likes long walks, she loves to talk…she loves jazz music, there’s this vivid picture I have of me putting her hand on my chest when we danced at a jazz club on our first year anniversary…I  found myself typing all the things I  knew Temi loved to do on my Ipad and I  realized I  had denied her of all…I  had made her the old woman she acts.

What the hell was I  doing here! I didn’t even tell my friends goodbye, I walked out of the club into my Jaguar. Temi’s call came through and I  picked at first ring.

“Temi?” My heart raced

“I know you are not coming home…”

“I am, stay up so we can gist. Been a while” I decided to do everything on that list and to even add many more for the rest of my lifetime with her.

“Are you alright?” She was shocked I suppose

“And I’d like us to go for a birthday party tomorrow. I want you to meet this amazing couple”

“You sound different Dayo”

“Maybe I’m different”

“Don’t say it! don’t say it! when you come we will gist very well” she laughed

She laughed!!! In just that laughter that I hadn’t heard in a while, she sounded like the lady I married six years ago…

45 Things A Girl Wants, But Won’t Ask For

1. Touch her waist.
2. Actually talk to her.
3. Share secrets with her.
4. Give her your jacket.
5. Kiss her slowly.

6. Hug her.
7. Hold her.
8. Laugh with her.
9. Invite her somewhere.
10. Hangout with her and your friends together.

11. Smile with her.
12. Take pictures with her.
13. Pull her onto your lap.
14. When she says she loves you more, deny it. Fight back.
15. When her friends say “I love her more than you”, deny it. Fight back and hug her tight so she can’t get to her friends.It       makes her feel loved.

16. Always hug her and say I love you whenever you see her.
17. Kiss her unexpectedly.
18. Hug her from behind around the waist.
19. Tell her she’s beautiful.
20. Tell her the way you feel about her.
(One last thing you need to do to show her
you actually do mean it.)



21. Open doors for her, walk her to her car – it
makes her feel protected, plus it never hurts
to act like a gentleman.
22. Tell her she’s your everything – only if you
mean it.
23. If it seems like there is something wrong, ask her – if she denies something being wrong, it means SHE DOESN’T WANT TO    TALK ABOUT  IT – so just hug her.
24. Make her feel loved.
25. Kiss her in front of OTHER girls you know!

(WE MIGHT DENY IT BUT WE ACTUALLY LIKE AND
KINDA WANT YOU TO TICKLE US)

26. Don’t lie to her.
27. DON’T cheat on her.
28. Take her ANYWHERE she wants.
29. Text message or call her in the morning
and tell her have a good day at school, and
how much you miss her.
30. Be there for her whenever she needs you, and even when she doesn’t need you, just be there so she’ll know that she can always count on you.

31. Hold her close when she’s cold so she can hold you too.
32. When you are alone hold her close and kiss her.
33. Kiss her on the cheek; (it will give her the
hint that you want to kiss her).
34. While in the movies, put your arm around her and then she will automatically put her head on your shoulder, then lean in and tilt her chin up and kiss her lightly.
35. Don’t ever tell her to leave even jokingly or act like you’re mad. If she’s upset, comfort her.



36. When people diss her, stand up for her.
37. Look deep into her eyes and tell her you
love her.
38. Lay down under the stars and put her head on your chest so she can listen to the steady beat of your heart, link your fingers together while you whisper to her as she rests her eyes and listens to you.
39. When walking next to each other grab her hand.
40. When you hug her, hold her in your arms as long as possible.

MAKE SURE SHE KNOWS SHES LOVED.

41. Call or text her at night to wish her sweet dreams.
42. Comfort her when she cries and wipe away her tears.
43. Take her for long walks at night.
44. Always remind her how much you love her.
45. Sit on top of her and tell her how much you love her and then bend down to her face and kiss her while you’re sitting on her. You’ll never know when she needs just a little more love ..

                                            please which is Genevieve?..they both look stunning

                                            Dumbass!!!!!

                 Taking a picture just to let people know you were at the crash site,,,,so sad....Naija have we lost it?

It's not easy being green - as one Brazilian man proved when he painted himself to look like the Incredible Hulk - and found the colour wouldn't wash off. Pool attendant Paulo Henrique dos Santos, from Vila Cruzeiro, dressed up as the comic book hero for a running event,but got a nasty shock when the time came to remove the green paint.
After frantic scrubbing, the hapless chap realised he'd used a paint reserved for ballistic missiles and nuclear submarines.


According to Brazilian news site Paulo had hoped to buy a brand of paint he'd used on a previous outing as the Hulk, but the shop he went to didn't have it.


Desperate to undo his inking, the would-be superhero spent Sunday and Monday having 'about 20 baths,' and was forced to sleep in a room lined with plastic bags.


He feared the industrial paint could actually give him lead poisoning, though he appears to have had no symptoms.


The 35-year-old, who also works as a DJ in Rio de Janeiro and is known as MC Marronzinho, has achieved overnight celebrity in his local area.


As if being bright green wasn't embarrassing enough, the local press ran pictures of his mother trying to remove the paint - and referred to her as his girlfriend.


So was he left feeling blue? Amazingly, Paulo says he doesn't regret the incident.

                    This is Toot McFartyson, an american girl that packaged her fart into Jars and sold it on eBay! TELL US WHAT YOU THINK?

My wife had an affair with her old boyfriend – can I still trust her?

My wife lied and lied about what had happened with an old boyfriend from her  schooldays. In the end it was her lover’s wife who told me it was a  full-blown affair.

I’m 48 and my wife’s 46. We’ve just celebrated our silver wedding anniversary  and had booked to go away for a week. The day before we were due to leave my  wife rang me at work in tears. She said I needed to come home but didn’t say  why.

I rushed home and she told me someone had put something on Facebook saying  she’d had an affair. She said it wasn’t true but when I asked her if she’d  been seeing someone, she said she’d met a guy for dinner.

He was an ex-boyfriend from years ago. She said they’d only had dinner,  nothing more. She said she’d never do anything to hurt me or the kids – we’ve two teenage girls. We went on holiday that night and had a good time  until the last night.

I couldn’t sleep. I kept wondering whether she was telling me the truth. The  next morning I asked her if she’d slept with this guy and she admitted she  had but just the once. I broke down in tears.

My wife received a text from her ex’s wife as soon as we got back home. She  wanted to speak to my wife but my wife said she couldn’t face it so I rang  her. She told me they’d been having an affair for six months starting last  October and asked that my wife leave her husband alone.

My wife still tried to deny it at first but I cried and pleaded with her to  be honest. We’ve talked, argued and cried but I still find it hard because  I’m sure she hasn’t told me everything. She started going out “with a  girlfriend” on Wednesday nights more than a year ago and that is when I now  know she accepted this guy on Facebook.

I am heartbroken. It’s put a huge strain on our marriage.

                                            hahahahahahaha...

A wife asked her husband to drop her at her friend's house, where a wedding was taking place. He said he would be too busy in the office and gave her some money for taxi. 
He left for office. 


Later at the wedding place, she met a fine girl and they got talking to each other. Soon they became friends. In the evening when everyone was leaving, the girl asked the woman how she was going home. She replied dat her husband is too busy in d office, so he can't come to pick her and she was going in a taxi.

The girl now said, 'My boyfriend who brought me here is coming to pick me up. I just spoke with him on phone and he's on his way to pick me. Why don't you join me in his car and we drop you at your house?' The woman agreed and a few minutes later, her husband's car arrived.
The girl entered the front passenger's seat of the car and asked the woman to sit at the back, which she did. The girl introduced her new friend to the boyfriend. When he turned round to greet the woman, he recognized her as his wife. They dropped the wife at home and left.

If you were the wife, what would you do when your husband returns... If you were the husband what will you say to your wife when you return?

Nigerian Drug law Enforcement Agency (NDLEA) officials nabbed two Nigerian men at the Murtala Muhammed International Airport in Lagos on drug suspicion.
The two men stuffed their pampers with Kilos of cocaine and roll it over with their normal pants.

                                           $5000. wedding for Dogs,,hmmm
                                             Complete with wedding invite, cake and a well decorated venue

                                            hahahahahahaha....

                                            The kid's smile is the only real smile in this photo, lol

                                              wow..creative indeed

                                         

 Ok I Know What The First Girl Is Doing, But What Is The 2nd Girl Doing?

                                                     One word...OUCH!!!

                                                   Abdulsalami Abubakar and IBB

                                                      Does this one need Introduction

A little boy opened the big and old family Bible with fascination, looking at the old pages as he turned them.
Then something fell out of the Bible and he picked it up and looked at it closely. It was an old leaf from a tree that has been pressed in between the pages.


"Momma, look what I found," the boy called out.


"What have you got there, dear?" his mother asked.


With astonishment in the young boy's voice he answered, "It's Adam's suit!!

5 thoughts women have about their men

1.    She thinks you might not call her after a date

The first step to building a woman’s trust is to following through with what you promise her. So if you say you are going to call her on Thursday, call her Thursday. If you say Friday, do it. If that’s not your style, though, or you’d like to keep a little mystery, don’t be definite about when you’ll be calling. It’s better than breaking a promise and at least she won’t be waiting by the phone on a certain day.
2. She thinks you just want to have sex with her

It’s a hard line to walk: If you make a move too soon, she’ll think that’s all you want. If you wait too long, she’ll think you’re just interested in her friendship. So the best way to work this is to just be sincere. If you are genuinely interested in pursuing a relationship with her, let her know. From there, she’ll give you the signals to let you know when she’s ready to get romantic with you.
3. She thinks you’re dating other women

As long as you are honest about it, casually dating more than one woman at the same time is perfectly acceptable– just don’t lie about it. Keep in mind that once you both become intimate or the relationship turns serious, she might assume you are her’s exclusively.

4. She thinks you’re not that interested

At times, even the most confident woman sometimes needs a little reassurance that you’re interested in her and that she still has it. You could let her know how special she is to you by complimenting her or sending her flowers. Find ways to make your woman feel special through a romantic gesture like calling her in the middle of the day for no reason at all. If you both have been in a relationship for a while, you need to work extra hard to reassure her that you still find her attractive. Flirting with other women in front of her can also make her feel insecure. Remember, when you’re with her,devote all your attention to her.

 

5. She thinks you’re cheating on her

If you haven’t given her a reason to feel that you’re cheating on her and she continues to accuse you of it, discuss the issue with her and let her know that you are committed and have no intention of straying. Believe it or not, lots of women have a lot of performance anxiety in the bedroom. If you’re sex life is going well be sure to let her know it. If not, however, be sure to address the issue in the most sensitive manner possible.

Yes, the world of dating is harsh. But if you genuinely care about her, with a little foresight and sincerity, you can make her feel more secure about your relationship and about herself and boost her ego.